Mature 50s Senior Dating

We received an interesting question from a reader:

Hi. My name is Mary and I have been divorced for more than 2 years. I seem to be having trouble finding a man my age because most of them are also divorced and have excess baggage – that is, children, emotional issues, financial issues, or worse, all of the above. Should I just ignore these problems and date them anyway? Would they eventually fix themselves?

Divorce is one of the primary reasons why people in their 40’s and 50’s are single. Unfortunately, many divorcées plunge into the mature dating 50s game way too early, before they have even gotten over the emotional trauma and worked out child custody and money matters. They tend to think that companionship can solve their problems.

There’s usually no harm in dating other divorcees casually. When things get a little more serious, though, it’s time you learn how to protect yourself from getting hurt in the crossfire. Be realistic and don’t go into this thinking that everything will play out smoothly. When you get into mature dating with other divorcees, you should expect some baggage; in some cases, their baggage may even be similar to yours.

So how do you ensure that these issues are nipped in the bud? It’s simple. You must know exactly what you want, and you must communicate that to the other person very clearly.

For instance, if you want to / don’t want to have more children, tell your partner. Do you anticipate relocating in the near future? Let the other person know. Remember not to compromise your own desires and needs for companionship and happiness when dating, even if you consider yourself to have very little time left. To be truly fulfilled in life and love in 40s, 50s, and 60s, you need to think of your own needs and share them with a like-minded partner.